The Perks of Being Middle Child

by Inne Dwika 3:57:00 AM 0 comments

I’ve been there, kid.

I’ve been there.

Mengeluh mulu karena ngerasa ngga didengerin? Ngerasa ngga punya opini sendiri karena seringkali terjebak disituasi untuk menghormati pendapat saudara kamu yang lebih tua dan menyesuaikan keinginan adikmu, yang lebih kecil?

Kamu dituntut untuk mengerti lebih cepat. Kamu di setting untuk menjadi dewasa ketika umurmu masih belia. Kamu dianggap bisa memutuskan dan fleksibel dalam mengambil keputusan di kehidupan sehari-harimu. You're forced to deal with what you feel.

Itu bagi mereka. Tapi bagi dirimu sendiri?

To you, you are invisible.

But, have you ever realize? Barangkali kamu sering menjadi penengah diantara yang lebih tua dan yang paling muda. Dan kamu tau, kamu menjadi perekat bagi kakak adikmu. Kamu adalah penyelamat. You’re more than just invisible. You are invincible.

You’ve been so strong. You have a nice personality. Me as a middle child of three sisters—will tell you the perks of being middle child.

You just don’t see, you observe.

I don’t know if it’s just me or you experienced the same, you’ll tend to seek the reason of something. You’re curious of whys.  You’re trying to understand why people acting in some way. When talking you’re wondering why people choosing some words. When you’re with friends, you know there’s several reasons from the way your friends responding each other. Why would they do that?  

You’re a damn reader. You read situation.

Since you’re an observer, you obviously read. You can feel the atmosphere, or maybe you read them as well. You know when the atmosphere is getting warm and vice versa. You know when someone is feeling uncomfortable, feeling uninterested, feeling small, being loud, being anything. In some cases maybe you just know it even before it happen. Lucky you, by knowing this you can avoid some situation before it get worse. Lol.

You act wisely.

You observe, you read, and it will lead you to act wisely. It’s like you’re predicting the possible consequences of any situation. You more likely to handle conflicts and avoid conflicts before it gets bad or worse. See, you’re that cool.

You’re such an understanding kid.

You put yourself in everyone’s shoes. Is this idiot? No. Especially if you are kind of perfectionist person, this help you on every level. Sounds so arrogant but you can’t deny the fact that you know people just like that. It’s not that you have a supernatural thingy, it’s because you’re a middle child. Know your potential! lol

You’re the humblest one among your sisters or brothers.

if you’re an altruism one. Even if you aren’t, I still think you’ll be the humblest one. You’re mature enough to make a right decision and make everyone happy. Ah, you’re just being fair.

You’re a quick learner.

You absolutely are. I think I know you know why. If you don’t… aren’t you wondering?

You’re awesome.

There’s no doubt to that.

All the things I mentioned are my opinion as a middle child for at least 20 years. At the end it’s about a choice. Are you being that altruism middle child like me, or not at all. You decide. But sure as hell I would like a chance (or maybe chances) to always learn from being what I am. I guess I learned some.